Liebster Award!

Thank you to TwoMommasInTheWorks for the nomination! Pops and Oli, you have been a pleasure to follow! This is my first nomination, and it sure feels good.

So here is how it works:

1. Link back to the blogger who gave you the award.

2. Answer the questions designated by the blogger who nominated you.

3. List 11 random facts about yourself.

4. Nominate 3-5 other bloggers with less than 200 followers.

5. Make up a set of questions for the nominated bloggers to answer.

The Questions:

1. What state do you live in?

I live in Ontario, Canada.

2. If you weren’t pregnant or in the TTC process, what would be number one on your bucket list?

I don’t really have a bucket list. I kind of treat it as a “To Do List”. If I wasn’t trying to be host to a parasite, I would have enjoyed spending my summer either: chasing turtles in the blue ocean around Maui, walking the public markets in Thailand, or getting diarrhea in China.

3. Is your family supportive of your plan into parenthood?

My mother and sister know, but father doesn’t yet. My wife’s immediate family all know. Everyone has been very supportive so far.

4. What are three things that make you want to follow someone else’s’ blog?

Humour, relevance, and regular posts.

5. How many kids do you ideally want and what genders? Twins?

Oh gosh, I want a whole litter. Other than my parents only having two, everyone else in my extended family all had 4 kids. My grandparents on both sides had 5 and 6. It feels a bit lonely right now because I live so far away from my family, and I’m so used to having tons of cousins around.

Gender is not important to me. Children of both genders have annoyed me. lol.

Twins would be awesome (but my nipples would hurt like hell).

6. Are you planning ahead to have the same donor for other kids or one step at a time?

It was slim pickin’s for us when we were buying sperm. And I approached the situation much like one does when organic chicken broth goes on sale at Costco- I bought it alll…… But really, all meant that we ended up buying 4 viles of Cherokee (our nickname for one donor), and 2 viles of Braun (the nickname for our other donor). So far, we’ve used up 3 Cherokee and 1 Braun for IUI’s and 1 Cherokee for the IVF. 1 vile of Braun remains. If we don’t two babies out of our last two potential FETs, then we will probably use up the last Braun. Sorry for making this into a math problem.

7. Does your partner read your blog?

Yes, she does. But since she doesn’t have WordPress on her iPhone, she just kind of checks it out whenever. Sometimes this means that she misses many posts in a row, and then finally finds out that I wrote a post about her masturbating me. lol. Ooopps!

10. What made you fall in love with your partner?

It was love at first sight… in a nasty musky hockey change room. She was running her mouth about something that I wasn’t listening to because I was staring at her abs…. and biceps…. and deltoids

Not only that, she has a sharp wit, is extremely handy (I’m a bit of a princess at times), and super thoughtful.

11. What do you typically do Sunday mornings?

Sleep in, sip an americano in bed (care of my lovely wife), make a kick-ass brunch, and go on a romantic hike with my wife and our dogs.


Random Facts:

1. Our little dog, Clementine (chihuahua-pug mix) aggressively humps a microfleece blanket at least 7 times after every meal. Right in our front bay window. For everyone to see. Especially the preschool group that walks daily along the sidewalk in front of our house.

2. Our big dog, Juno (husky-lab-retriever mix) has killed over 40 animals, ranging from birds, to medium sized mammals, to baby deer. She is extremely protective, and unstoppable.

3. My wife is more Chinese than I am (not literally). She is 4 inches shorter than me, has pin straight black hair (mine is wavy/curly), is proficient using chopsticks with both hands, and has actually been to China. She tops this off by sporting a rice-picker hat every year at Pride.

4. My wife used to be a competitive powerlifter.

5. We both used to play varsity field hockey for our undergraduate universities.

6. We have 6 university degrees between the two of us, and just finished paying off the student loans that they incurred in 2012.

7. I grew up playing in a family band (like the Partridge Family). We performed on a cruise ship once.

8. DW was part of the Young Astronauts Club, and witnessed the Challenger tragedy in grade 3 (1986). She remembers pointing at the TV screen, yelling “They’re all DEAD! They’re all DEAD!!!”, and was subsequently ushered out of the room by the teacher.

9. I have abnormally long limbs. I stand at 5’7”, but my wingspan measures 5’11 (they’re supposed to be the same). In medical school clinicians used me as an example of “Marfan Syndrome”. I don’t actually have Marfan Syndrome. Marfan Syndrome is actually really sad.

10. I’m really bad at foreplay. I kind of like to just get it on. DW has to remind me of these four five syllables: “fore-play-cuddle-after”. It’s so bad that it’s kind of a joke now.

11. I have dreadlocks. They are self-maintaining, clean, and beautiful. They also smell amazing- like scalp and Aveda.


(The little dog demonstrating the proper “cuddle after” technique)



1. The Gayby Project

Hilarious, honest, and super awesome. These girls are doing their first FET today!

2. Not Sisters

Also hilarious, very entertaining, and apparently look alike. They recently miscarried, and are navigating these waters with a wee little one already.

3. Religion: Optional

Their little girl Punky, should have her own Tumblr. She is friggin’ adorable. Rachael, Kim, and Punky are a sweet family that I really enjoy following. Rachel’s posts are so honest and heartfelt. Sometimes, they are a little ray of sunshine in my day.

Questions for Them:

1. Describe your most embarrassing moment.

2. Team Jacob or Team Edward? Explain.

3. What is a recurring inside joke between you and your partner?

4. What is a baby name that you absolutely cannot stand?

5. What would you do if you won $20,000 dollars (that cannot be put towards baby-making or paying off debts).

6. What are 3 qualities that you love about your partner?

7. Teenage celebrity crush?

8. What is a guaranteed way to get you out of a bad mood?

9. What is your favourite comfort food?

10. Team or individual sports?

11. Describe yourself.

Period Found!

Last night, in the depths of my frustration, DW rolled over, cupped my breast and said

“Honey, I’m horny.”

This morning, Aunt Flo arrived.



Day 3 bloodwork and full-bladder transvaginal ultrasound booked for Friday morning! Estrace to begin on that day as well!


Missing: Menstrual Period

If found, please return for reward.

Honestly, for someone who has a regular 28 – 31 day long cycle, how is it that I’m at 35 days now with no sign of Aunt Flo? Especially when this upcoming cycle is my turn at bat for this FET.

Because I am an obsessive-calendar-counter-over-planner (there are many others of us on here, admit it), a cycle ago, I predicted that I would be looking forward to: a nice and relaxing FET sometime in July, with all of August to puke my guts out in the comfort of my own home, and that I would return to work in September, embryo firmly established, heartbeat and all, with only one month left to wait before the safety of getting through the first trimester. *sigh*

Things never turn out how you expect them to. That has been especially true of this damn baby-making process. We should’ve had a 9-month old baby by now and be trying for our second.

For now, I wait, overanalyzing every twinge in my uterus (not unlike a two-week-wait), and every wipe over the toilet, wait wait waiting to get this show on the road.

A Shout Out to My Blogger Girls

Do you ever feel like you just want to send out awesome warm squishy hugs to people you’ve been thinking of?

For me, today is one of those days.

I won’t name names, but it’s been a bad week for many of you who I follow. You will know who you are.

You lost yours at 4 weeks. Shortly after the exciting BFP. Now you bleed more than blood I’m sure. Thinking of you.

You lost yours at 8 weeks. A blighted ovum. A broken heart. Your angel baby and mine are becoming cute hapa friends somewhere nice right now. Sweet sorrowful kisses for you and J.

Your partner lost her mom. A grief that we all fear. In it perhaps there is hope in the renewal of things. Do you believe in reincarnation?

Sending love to you all. You are in my thoughts.


Is home to me. I arrived last night and it has been absolute bliss so far, even though I miss DW and our fur babies like crazy.

It started off with using a West Jet Buddy Pass gifted to me annually by a very good friend of mine, who is an employee of the company. I paid about a quarter of the regular priced fare, and then got an entire row to myself!


Look at this view as we made our descent:


I definitely took this backdrop for granted my entire childhood. I didn’t realize how amazing the mountains were until I moved away.

Standing on almost any street, you have a decent view of the mountains.

We spent today (Canada Day) at Granville Island. We took the Aquabus from Yaletown, and on our boat was a cute interracial couple with their adorable mixed Asian-Caucasian baby. One of the women was also about 6 months pregnant. I felt really sad for a moment, but said to my mom, “Maybe you’ll have some grand-babies bring to Granville Island next year”. We then reminisced how lucky I was that we visited the market and fed the birds almost every week, and developed a really strong appreciation of art and the process of creating it (my mom is a painter as well). It makes me feel a bit bad that we will be raising our kids in the suburbs, where there isn’t an equivalent artist presence. Unfortunately, downtown Toronto is unaffordable for the space that we want. I could live on a small lot, or condo or loft, but DW would be miserable in high-density living. She needs her yard, as does the big dog. It’s one of the few things that we disagree on. It’s also something I could spend an entire post writing about.

At Granville Island we admired the work of many artisans. We chatted with some art enthusiasts. We bought some salmon jerky and maple syrup salmon bites. We picked out several appetizers: grilled whole artichokes, tomato bocconcini salad, and an amazing balsamic-olive spinach salad for lunch.

I love Haida art and bought a t-shirt with an eagle on it. I am still looking for the right Haida ring or earrings.

Then, we took the Aquabus back, and headed to our Chinese massages. I emphasized the Chinese aspect of the massage because it is a whole lot deeper (and somewhat painful), but very therapeutic. I had 2 amazing hours of massage, which I liken to being meat tenderized. It was amazing, and I will be returning again before I leave.

This evening we will be buying some fresh seafood straight from the fishermen/women who caught it, we will pick greens from my mom’s garden, and we will feast.

Pretty awesome mother-daughter day I’d say!